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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

How I'm feeling

hi sam im writing to you for some advice..... ive been in care a year and a half now,,,, i was put into care due to m...

Religion

Hello Sam, I want to know about religion. How much should i believe in it? Should i dedicate my life to religion? Sho...

Transgender male to female

Hi, i am male to female transgender. Can you please give me advice about next steps for me, I have 'come out' to my f...

Bullying at work

I’m 16 and recently got a new job. I feel like my manager is picking on me because of my mental health and me being v...

Not feeling right...

Recently I have not been myself, in failing at school, I hate being at home and my friendships keep falling apart, I ...

Fitting in

Hi i am a 11 year old girl and i do not fit in ANYWHERE. I guess i am a bit weird i always wear black and sometimes i...

big decisions

hi Sam, This week I have been faced with a very difficult choice that could change the path im on at the moment. Ive ...

Made a mistake

hi. i have been really silly and sent some messages to girls that I wish I could take back. school have found out and...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Religion

Hello Sam, I want to know about religion. How much should i believe in it? Should i dedicate my life to religion? Sho...

Not feeling right...

Recently I have not been myself, in failing at school, I hate being at home and my friendships keep falling apart, I ...

Fitting in

Hi i am a 11 year old girl and i do not fit in ANYWHERE. I guess i am a bit weird i always wear black and sometimes i...

Is crossdressing okay?

Hey Sam, So Im writing to you to ask you if you have any advice on how to tell my family that i want to crossdress. I...

Sport stress

I recently had a big athletics comp and I was worried about mucking up , the day before i couldnt get it out of my he...

Coming off of medication😭

Hi sam I suffer from really bad mood swings and have been taking medication for it since i was 13. Recently i decided...

Mental Health Problems

I think I have a mental health problem but I can’t seem to pin point which one I have. I have looked through lists of...

Mental Health

Dear Sam I feel as if i may have some Mental Health issues. I am wondering if there is anything I can do wothout goin...

Relapsing depression

hi Sam, i had depression for 2 years and i self harmed and it was so hard for me to just get pit of bed, i did ask fo...

Positivity and Pride

Hi Sam. I know this isn't what you usually get, and I fully understand if you don't want to publish this one online, ...

Death and grieving

hi sam receny my sister's friend's mum died of a brain tumour. Even thought i didnt really know her, i got very upset...

Suicide in a game

Hi Sam, Recently I have been playing a video game and there is a character in it called Kate. She gets bullied and tr...

I don’t know how to feel

I was raped by my partner of 4 years he was remanded for 4 months but was found not guilty at trial since then I was ...

Tiredness

Hi Sam. i couldnt find any letters on this topic. I am always so tired, im in y10 and always am so stressed i cant sl...

Fire at my house this morning

hey sam, this morning there was a fire in my house and there is now nothing left, i was in my roon and had to be resc...

Anxiety at school

hi sam. i have anxiety. my guidance teacher gave me a card that i show to my teachers and they would allow me to leav...

Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

My Sexuality

Hi Sam, I’m a 10 year old girl,I am bisexual and NOT proud of it, I recently discovered my sexuality not too long ago...

Panic attacks

Hi Sam, I’m 15 in year 11 and lately I’ve been having really bad panic attacks at school where I’ll have to leave the...

Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

Grief

Hi Sam, Thank you for reading my letter. So December last year my boyfriend died due to an unexplained reason, just s...

Self Harm In Sport

Hi Sam, I have struggled with self harm since November 2016. I do a lot of gymnastics and we have a very strict dress...