Ask Sam

Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

Ask Sam and other parts of the website won't be available on Wednesday 11th December between 4am and 7am while we make some changes to improve the website. If you need support you can still speak to a counsellor by calling 0800 1111.

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You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Is it OK to vape under age?

Hi, I'm just wandering if it's OK to have possession of an e-cigarette if your under 16. I have a friend who has one....

Loneliness at University

Hi im 18 and i just started university. Its a lot harder then i thought but i wouldnt dream of dropping out because i...

Chronic illness

Hi Sam, I feel so out of contol. After being unwell for years i have finally got a diagnosis of SLE (Lupus). It's a r...

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Hi Sam... ​ So recently I’ve been really struggling with my OCD. I’ve been washing my hands about 20 times everytime ...

The implant

i had the implant put in just over a month ago now but i still get my period and have been on my period for nearly 3 ...

Renting at 17

Hi im 17 and i was wondering would i be able to rent a flat at 17 ??

Message from Sam

As the end of the year approaches there's often a lot of different things going on – festivals, parties and family gatherings. In the next couple of weeks I'd be interested in hearing more from you if you have any worries or problems about how things might be over the festive period, as well as any other problems you might have. Remember that although I read every letter I can only respond to a couple each week and these will be answered here on my page, not in private.

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Chronic illness

Hi Sam, I feel so out of contol. After being unwell for years i have finally got a diagnosis of SLE (Lupus). It's a r...

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Hi Sam... ​ So recently I’ve been really struggling with my OCD. I’ve been washing my hands about 20 times everytime ...

Buying alcohol

Hi Sam, I am 18, but when i was 17 i tried to buy a bottle of wine for my gran's birthday, in the local shop. I didn'...

My uncle's suicide

Hi, ​ last week my uncle killed himself. he had struggled from mental health issues for a while and had attempted sui...

Gender confusion and binding

so im confused about gender at the moment and i bind with 2 sports bras. it helps me feel more comfortable with my bo...

Let down by the NHS

I was wondering what advice you could give to someone who has asked for help at their GP and hasn’t received any word...

how do i stop overthinking

recently i have been overthinking almost everything and i dont want to and i cant stop myself. i have tried to talk t...

CAMHS transition

Hi Sam I have recently turned 18 and in my last yr of school. I was reffered to Camhs when I was 17 and they didnt do...

letter to uncle in jail

hi my grandma wants me to write my uncle a letter and he is is jail but i never really had a bond or relationship wit...

Coming out to religious friend

I am a gay female (I prefer the term gay over lesbian even though I'm female) and I am not really out to anyone. I wa...

Hypochondria and health anxiety

hi sam, ​ and i’m 16 years old. recently over the past fee months i’ve developed death anxiety, starting with fears o...

Calling childline twice

hello i recently called childline for the first time and it was great and i felt safe to talk but because i was nervo...

1 to 1 counselling

Hi Sam, I think I might need 1 to 1 counselling, but I’m a bit scared to get it, I don’t know why. Anyway, I have a f...

Climate change

dear Sam, I know this sounds really stupid but i’m really struggling right now with my mental health linked to climat...

Grieving

i lost my mum when i was 8. it was a hit and run accident. i saw my mum die. birthday and key events are coming up an...

After abortion thoughts

I am 17 years old and was 10 weeks pregnant. One of the main reasons why I thought abortion was the best option was b...

Stress about organ donation

dear sam, recently the NHS announced the new opt out policy for organ donation. as a teenager i have always seem deat...

Cross dressing but confused

Hi I have been crossdressing as a girl for nearly 2 years now and recently ive been doing it more and i like it. I fe...

Suicidal Thoughts

Hi Sam. For the past couple of years my life has been impacted by wanting to kill my self. It comes and goes but rece...