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The uprise in murders

Dear Sam,

Hello, i am writing to you today because lately i have felt like i can’t go outside my house because if i do, i might get...killed. Lately in the UK, as i am sure you know, the uprise in gun,knife and other crimes have gone up a huge amount,almost one everyday now. They seem to be getting closer and closer to where i live and now i feel absolutely terrified to go out by myself. I fear my loved family and friends lives when they go out as well. This has been a non stop thought in my brain, and the other day whilst i was thinking about it, i burst out crying, I just dont know what to do,im to scared to go out! Could you please give me some advice because i feel like on of these days me or someone i know is going to get hurt.

Thank you

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Hi there,

Watching the news can help you stay up to date with what’s happening, but can also have a negative effect on you. There are bad and worrying things happening all the time, but often they won’t be something that affects you directly. It’s always been important to keep yourself safe from knives and other crime and so in some ways this hasn’t changed anything, even if it feels scarier. It can help to remember that police and security services are always working to help keep everyone safe, and teams across the country are doing things to prevent knife crime and violence.

Worrying about world events and things on the news can make you feel anxious and scared to go outside. There are things that you can do to help you cope and manage this anxiety like writing a diary of your feelings, using distractions like listening to music and talking to family or friends.

Taking care of yourself is very important to help you cope, feel calmer and to stay healthy. If you find that the thoughts and feelings you have continue and feel out of control, it might be a good idea to speak to someone you trust like a family member, teacher or your doctor. You can also get support from a Childline Counsellor at any time.

It’s important to stay as safe as you can when you are out in public. Avoid showing off valuable things like a mobile phone in the street and keep your bags closed and close to your body. If you can, try avoid travelling alone and keep to well-lit areas, especially after dark. Arrange how you will get home if you go out after dark.

It’s important to never carry a knife or any other weapon as this is a crime, even if you don’t use it. You should trust your gut feelings – if something doesn’t feel right, it’s better to be safe and get yourself out of a situation. Remember if you ever feel unsafe at any time in any place inside or outside, it’s okay to phone 999 to get immediate emergency help.

It’s also okay to call Childline free on 0800 1111 if you’re feeling scared – hearing a friendly voice on the other end of the phone can help if you’re walking home and feeling scared. Our counsellors are here for you.

Take care,

Sam

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