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Hi and thanks for your message.
When parents are not together it can be difficult for the children, particularly when different family members are telling us different things. The laws around family can be really complicated and Im afraid Im not going to be able to give you a definite answer because it depends on so many other things that I dont know about your situation.
What you could do is talk to an organization called the Childrens Legal Centre. They can give you some free legal advice and explain to you how the law works with families after you tell them more about your situation. Depending on how things are at home it could be helpful to talk to mum about this and listen to her reasons and she could listen to yours. It can be hard to be in a situation like this as we do not want to hurt or disappoint one parent while not wanting to lose contact with the other.
The Childrens Legal Centre have a free phone number you can call them on which is 0808 802 0008 (open 08:00 - 20:00 Monday to Friday) or you can chat online with them.
It sounds like youre hoping you do get to see your dad and that must feel frustrating for you if you arent able to make that decision. Perhaps you could come and talk to a ChildLine counsellor about how its felt for you? Were here for you whenever you want to talk, either online through our 1-2-1 Chat or on the phone 08000 1111, its free and confidential.
You take care
Sam
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