hey, so basically i am 15 and im pregnant, 2-3 weeks and basically my boyfriend really doesnt want this baby at all. weve been together nearly 7 months and this was a mistake my mum and dad are so supportive and have said this is all my decision as i do want the baby, my boyfriend has said if i keep this baby hes leaving, he said he would have nothing to do with me or the baby and i dont want that. i want to make him happy so i was planning on getting an abortion just to please him. to make me and him okay so i didnt lose him. but its horrible because i want this baby so much. his mum and dad are so supportive, his mum doesnt exactly want me to have it because im too young but i can really see me being a good mum, all ive ever wanted was a baby. now im so confused as to what to do
Sam
Hi there,
Deciding what to do with an unexpected pregnancy can be one of the hardest decisions to make. Every option has its own benefits and challenges which can make it very difficult to know what's best. While it's good to talk to the people who care about you and get their input, the decision should always be yours to make. This decision could affect the rest of your life so it's really important to think about both your long-term and short-term future.
Your boyfriend is entitled to have his say about how he feels about the pregnancy, however he doesn't have the final say. You get to make the choice about whether to continue with the pregnancy or not. Nobody should put you in a position where they force you to choose between them or the baby.
If having children is something you want to do in the future, it might be worth thinking about what that's going to be like if your boyfriend doesn't want the same thing as you. When making a big decision it can help to look at all the possible outcomes and how that might make you feel. For example, how might you feel if you do have an abortion, but your boyfriend decides to end the relationship anyway? It's important to think about all of these possibilities and how that might affect your decision.
It's also important to think about how your life might change if you do have the baby - how you might support you and the baby, as well as how it's going to affect you finishing your education. Talking with your parents about this is important as they might be your best source of support.
If you want to talk through all your options with someone who will be there to listen and won't judge you or push you into any particular option, our counsellors are there for you. You can talk to a Childline counsellor anytime, day or night.
I hope that helps, thanks for sending me this letter.
Sam
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