You might feel lonely if you:
Why people feel lonely
You don’t need to be physically alone or cut off to feel lonely. You might be surrounded by other people. But still it feels like you’re on your own.
Maybe you don’t feel close to your friends, or it could be part of another problem. Loneliness can make us feel down. If you feel like this, you can get help.
If you’ve been hurt by people in the past, it can be hard to trust new people you meet. This can make you feel lonely. Over time, you’ll meet so many people that not every person will become a close friend.
When you meet someone new, give yourself time to get to know them properly before you trust them. Think about what you like about them. If you can’t think of many good things about them, or aren't sure how you feel about them, this might mean that they're going to be just someone you know rather than a close friend.
Living in care or moving around
If you’re living in care or away from your family, you might feel that you are completely alone. But there are people who can help, and remember that we’re always here.
Moving out of your home, or moving in and out of care can be really stressful. It can also cause feelings of sadness. There are people who can help you find ways to cope and take positive steps to move forward with your life and not feel so lonely.
Find out more about asking an adult for help.
What you can do
If you're feeling lonely, you could:
- get advice about building confidence and self-esteem - this can help you feel confident when you meet new people and focus on stuff you like about yourself
- use our Art box to draw or write down your thoughts and see what makes you feel better or worse
- get support from other people on our message boards
- talk to an adult you trust
- join a club or group where you can meet new people - this could be a sports team, music class or book club. Try our hobbies and interests board for ideas of stuff to do
- talk to a Childline counsellor for support.