Building confidence and self-esteem

Always putting yourself down? Or feel like you have no confidence anymore? You’re not alone - lots of people feel like this sometimes. But there are loads of ways to boost your confidence and self-esteem with our top tips.

Bring out the best in you

Self-esteem is how you think about yourself. Being confident means being comfortable with how you look and how you feel. And it means feeling good about yourself, your abilities and your thoughts.

Sometimes your confidence can come and go depending on the situation you're in. You might be really outgoing outside of school but be really shy in class. This is completely normal. At school, you’re surrounded by lots of different people and it can be difficult to speak up and be yourself.

Building up your confidence can take time. But we’re here for you. Taking small steps can often lead to a big change. And you don’t have to do it on your own.

5 things you can try:

  1. walk with your head held high
  2. wear a bright colour
  3. do something new
  4. eat healthy food
  5. do exercise.


Building your confidence can take time. But there are lots of things you can try to help you feel more confident in any situation.

Understanding others

The world would be a very boring place if everyone looked the same, spoke the same and did the same things. Having different people around is a really positive thing.

If you find new or different things scary you could find positive facts about a culture or religion to help you to see another perspective.

You could ask people questions about their beliefs and explain more about your faith, religion or values. This could be a way of learning about each other and about the things that make us who we are.

Celebrating our differences can sometimes help us meet new people, make friends or stop bullying from happening.

coping with break-ups

Relationship worries can have a big impact on our confidence. When we really like somebody and they don’t like us back or if a relationship has come to an end, the first thing we might think is, ‘What’s wrong with me?’

You might start to question yourself, the way you look or how you behave. It’s natural to compare yourself to others too. And it definitely doesn't mean that you aren’t, or won’t be liked by somebody else.

People break up for all sorts of reasons. If you stay positive and believe in yourself, somebody else will come along and like you for who you are. Get more advice about relationships.

Getting help if someone's nasty to you

If somebody has said something nasty about the way you look or how you behave, it says more about them than it does about you.

Sometimes when people feel insecure, they try to take attention away from themselves by criticising others. Try contacting our counsellors for support.

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