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Hi there,
Thank you for your letter and well done for writing in to get some support.
It sounds like youve made some clear decisions about what you feel comfortable with in a relationship right now. You've said you dont feel ready for more than hugs and kisses yet. You've done really well to think that through and be clear where you stand about it.
I wonder whether youve been able to talk to your teachers about how you feel about this and whether theyve been able to explain to you what their worries are too. Sometimes talking things through calmly and listening to what each other has to say can help to find a way to make things easier between you all.
It can be a bit difficult to talk to adults about things sometimes. However, you've been able to explain what is going on for you really well in your letter. It might be a good idea to write the teachers a letter in the same way. This might help make your relationship with your boyfriend more clear to the teachers.
You also said that you feel that your parents are fine with it and maybe they could also be involved if you did decide to try and talk things through with your teachers.
Im pleased to hear that you dont feel that your boyfriend will pressure you into anything that youre not ready for. Its really important that nobody pressures you. While it is not against the law to have a boyfriend thats older than you, it is against the law for anyone over 16 to have sex with someone your age. You could look at our Sex and relationships page for more information.
Whatever decisions you make youre always welcome to talk to a ChildLine counsellor about how youre feeling or whats going on for you. You can do that by calling on 0800 1111 (all calls are free and dont show up on the bill), emailing or by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.