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Hi there,
Sometimes if adults arent happy in a relationship with each other, things can become easier in some ways after they separate. Even if going through it feels difficult at the time.
Its understandable to feel nervous about what will happen when parents split up. This can be a scary and confusing time. And you might worry what your family will be like in the future. Its good that youve already spoken to your mum and told her what youd like to happen. Perhaps you could think about asking her to speak to dad about it. Its important to try and let them know what you want, as you have the right to be listened to when decisions are made about custody and where youll spend your time.
If you dont feel able to speak to your dad directly, you could write down what you want to tell him you could give him that letter, or it might help you to feel more confident about having a conversation. Lots of young people find it easier to write down what they want to say. It can help you practise and change what you want to say before you settle on a final version.
You said your siblings are bullies. Although people often argue with brothers or sisters, it's not ok for them to bully you. And you deserve to get support.
If you'd like to talk more, you could talk to a counsellor. You may be able to get some tips from other young people by posting a message on the Divorce message board, or take a look on the Divorce Aid website.
Take care,
Sam
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