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Hi there,
Our sexuality is just one part of who we are. For some people its not important that there is a label for who they are attracted to. For other people it can be really important to have a label. It can help them understand themselves better.
Everyone's different. And there's no right or wrong. It's really up to you if you put a label on yourself.
There are lots of ways to describe a persons sexuality. All of them are normal and theres not one sexuality that is better or worse than any other. Being gay is just as okay as being bisexual, straight, pansexual or any other way someone wants to describe themselves.
It seems like youre worried that by putting a label on your sexuality now that you have to stick to that forever. This isnt the case. Its fine to experiment and find out who you are attracted to. You might stick to one gender now, but later decide that you like both only to go back to one gender again at some point. There are no rules.
It can be healthy to take the pressure off yourself and let you be who you are. Its usually the better way to really discover yourself, rather than trying to fit yourself to any specific label.
You could check out our message boards where other young people share their thoughts and feelings.
I hope that makes sense.
Thanks for the letter.
Sam
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