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Hi there,
When someone dies unexpectedly it can be very shocking and can cause a lot of fear and anxiety. Its particularly hard to cope with if its someone as close to you as a sibling. Nobody can replace them. Grieving for someone can take a long time and it affects everyone in lots of ways. There can be times when it seems as if no one truly understands how you feel and sometimes this can make life feel too much to cope with. This is why its so important to ask for help.
It can be really hard finding the right support and information. We have some advice and we recommend Grief Encounter who have a helpful guide for young people. It includes support for if youve lost a sibling, mum or dad. Hope Again is another website for young people who are facing grief, where you can share stories and support for each other. You can also try Winston's Wish which has message boards and creative pages that young people can use to talk about their grief.
Grief can lead to problems with anxiety or self-harm and sometimes life issues such as exam stress can make things feel even worse. If you feel like you cant cope, its really important to talk to someone and to get help to keep safe. You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor at any time. Our counsellors will always listen to you and try to understand what you're going through.
We have advice about managing your anxiety and you can look to find whats going to work best for you. As well as talking to someone about how you feel it can also help to try relaxation or distraction techniques to help. The Mix also has different stories and advice about anxiety that could help.
I hope this helps a little, thank you for sharing about the loss of your sister.
Take care,
Sam
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