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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

How I'm feeling

hi sam im writing to you for some advice..... ive been in care a year and a half now,,,, i was put into care due to m...

Religion

Hello Sam, I want to know about religion. How much should i believe in it? Should i dedicate my life to religion? Sho...

Transgender male to female

Hi, i am male to female transgender. Can you please give me advice about next steps for me, I have 'come out' to my f...

Bullying at work

I’m 16 and recently got a new job. I feel like my manager is picking on me because of my mental health and me being v...

Not feeling right...

Recently I have not been myself, in failing at school, I hate being at home and my friendships keep falling apart, I ...

Fitting in

Hi i am a 11 year old girl and i do not fit in ANYWHERE. I guess i am a bit weird i always wear black and sometimes i...

big decisions

hi Sam, This week I have been faced with a very difficult choice that could change the path im on at the moment. Ive ...

Made a mistake

hi. i have been really silly and sent some messages to girls that I wish I could take back. school have found out and...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Sexual Thoughts

Dear sam, im having sexual thoughts, and i dont know why. Im only 12 and it feels so wrong. Is this normal, it feels ...

Me and school situation

im 14 and have been at my secondary school for three years. I’ve chosen my gcse’so i am going into 4th year. In first...

Effects of rape

​hello i was raped when i was 9 years old by a girl who was 13 at the time - im a 14 year old boy and i sometimes fee...

Addicted to sex chat rooms

Dear Sam, The last few days I have been using online Chat Rooms for the past few days, and have been going on the sex...

Misscarrige

hi sam i revently had a misscarrige. it wasnt compleately out the blue and i had been told my baby might not survive....

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Family

Since my parents found out I lost my virginity I've had to go to some health clinics because of unprotected sex which...

Peer Pressure

Hi Sam, Recently my friends have been trying to get me to do things I'm uncomfortable with such as smoking weed, vapi...

Feeling left out

I have low confidence and my friends are outgoing people. Sometimes I feel left out because they are all laughing and...

Friendships and depression

Hey whoever's reading this, I don't normally do things like this and i feel like i shouldn't be wasting peoples time ...

Condoms for 13 year olds

Hi Sam, Ok so basically i am 14 and my girlfriend is also 14...we both want to have sex and i know its technically il...

My Manipulative Best Friend

Hey Sam, I have a 'best friend' at school who is quite manipulative. I met her a year and a bit ago, in my previous s...