Ask Sam

Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

Ask Sam and other parts of the website won't be available on Wednesday 11th December between 4am and 7am while we make some changes to improve the website. If you need support you can still speak to a counsellor by calling 0800 1111.

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Is it OK to vape under age?

Hi, I'm just wandering if it's OK to have possession of an e-cigarette if your under 16. I have a friend who has one....

Loneliness at University

Hi im 18 and i just started university. Its a lot harder then i thought but i wouldnt dream of dropping out because i...

Chronic illness

Hi Sam, I feel so out of contol. After being unwell for years i have finally got a diagnosis of SLE (Lupus). It's a r...

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Hi Sam... ​ So recently I’ve been really struggling with my OCD. I’ve been washing my hands about 20 times everytime ...

The implant

i had the implant put in just over a month ago now but i still get my period and have been on my period for nearly 3 ...

Renting at 17

Hi im 17 and i was wondering would i be able to rent a flat at 17 ??

Message from Sam

As the end of the year approaches there's often a lot of different things going on – festivals, parties and family gatherings. In the next couple of weeks I'd be interested in hearing more from you if you have any worries or problems about how things might be over the festive period, as well as any other problems you might have. Remember that although I read every letter I can only respond to a couple each week and these will be answered here on my page, not in private.

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Internet Friends

Hello. I was wondering, how do I tell my parents about my internet friend. We’ve been talking for almost a year and I...

My friend sent me porn

my friend sent this weird frickin porn website about sex toys. It was on Instagram and it made me feel very uncomftab...

Alone after being bullied

I've been being bullied by a few girls in my friendship group for around 6 months now but stayed in the group because...

my school friendship problems.

hi , at school i feel as if nobody notices me . i don't have any proper friends and all the people who i thought were...

Masturbation

hi im 12 and i feel disgusting if i masterbate but i cant stop myself from doing this i watch porn sometimes but i fe...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

The implant

Hey ive been thinking about getting the implant for quite a while now as i started to have sex when i turned 14 i hav...

Can I get arrested

Basically I don‘t watch porn but one time a few years ago I did because I was curious. I didnt do it again and never ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Being Gay and coming out

Dear Sam, I am an almost 13 year old boy and I am gay. It’s been a big realisation over the past few months and it ha...

Sexual Thoughts

Dear sam, im having sexual thoughts, and i dont know why. Im only 12 and it feels so wrong. Is this normal, it feels ...

Me and school situation

im 14 and have been at my secondary school for three years. I’ve chosen my gcse’so i am going into 4th year. In first...

Effects of rape

​hello i was raped when i was 9 years old by a girl who was 13 at the time - im a 14 year old boy and i sometimes fee...

Addicted to sex chat rooms

Dear Sam, The last few days I have been using online Chat Rooms for the past few days, and have been going on the sex...