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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I feel ugly sometimes.

Hi Sam I am struggling at the moment with my confidence. Sometimes i feel like I look pretty and then i see other gir...

Is Stuttering a disability?

Hey, so I was in my French lesson last Friday and I heard my teacher say something about how stuttering is a disabili...

My friend

My friend is saying she is going through a hard time at home. Im not entirely sure what to do about this situation as...

Exams

i have exams in couple weeks around 8 or 9 and im feeling overwhelmed and cant juggle everything. im passing some thi...

How I'm feeling

hi sam im writing to you for some advice..... ive been in care a year and a half now,,,, i was put into care due to m...

Religion

Hello Sam, I want to know about religion. How much should i believe in it? Should i dedicate my life to religion? Sho...

Transgender male to female

Hi, i am male to female transgender. Can you please give me advice about next steps for me, I have 'come out' to my f...

Bullying at work

I’m 16 and recently got a new job. I feel like my manager is picking on me because of my mental health and me being v...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Boys

This boy is nearly 18 and I'm 13 we have been friends since I was about 8 and recently he has started to call me beau...

I'm 17, he's 31.

I recently met a guy at a party and I got talking to him through my brother who is roughly a few years younger than h...

I'm 16. He's 24

I'm 16 years of age and I started talking to a 24 year old from a social media app called Instagram. I've known him f...

Abused by boyfriend

Warning: This letter contains sexual content or information that some people may find upsetting – remember that you c...

He's older than me

I'm thirteen years old and I've been dating a boy for over a month. We started dating on the third of may. He's seven...

I'm 16 and he's 21

Basically the guy I really like has problem with the age gap between us and I think that's the barrier to stoping the...

Long distance ?

Hi Sam, you see I met this guy on an Anime chat site 7 a while ago sometime last year and well hes 16 now and im 14 w...

In love with my teacher

Hiya I'm 15 near 16 and I'm totally in love with my science teacher he is only 22 and he's perfect we flirt in a secr...

I lied and it was illegal

I'm 14 (although i'm 15 next week) and I met a lad a concert about two months ago who is 19 (it was his birthday when...

Hdb

Hi im not sure what to i've started talking to older boys&men it makes me feel better because of rverythig else a...

Sam, I'm a liar

I've been talking to this guy whose 17. When we first started talking I told him i was 14 (I'm actually 13). I told h...

seeing a married man

hi sam, im 17 and i really do like this guy i am seeing, hes 40, has children and is married. I feel bad and guilty a...

Teacher and me

I'm writing to tell you that I am in need of help as I am in love with my teacher whom I think likes me as well, we a...

Love my Teacher of 24

Hi Sam, I know you must get a lot of letters on this topic but I really am feeling at a loss of what to do. I'm 16, n...

dont hate....

well this is a long story but i need to tell someone,, well i have left school nearly 2years now. i got myself in to ...

Is 4 years too big?

I met a boy on holiday (he's 17 I'm 13) and we got pretty close, although nothing sexual haappened. We still talk a l...

i like my teacher

i m 12 yrs old and i've a kind of crush on my teacher. he is my music teacher and because ia m a choir student so we ...

Boy Troubles

i like this boy but he keeps asking me to do things with him but im only 12 nearly 13 and hes 14, but if i mess it up...

30years

so im 17 and hes 47, he loves me and i love him. but i know its wrong and i want to leave my family for him but i can...

Strangers

Hi I'm G and i'm 14I'm supposed to be meeting a 16/17 year old tomorrow to go to the cinema, i know he is 16/17 becau...

I crave a baby...

Hey Sam, I'm only 16 years old but I crave a baby.. I have got a boyfriend but we've never had sex. I don't want to...