Ask Sam

Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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latest letters

Expelled but want to go back

Dear Sam i want to go to a school that i have been expelled from. at the time i didn't realised how important it is a...

Gender confusion and binding

so im confused about gender at the moment and i bind with 2 sports bras. it helps me feel more comfortable with my bo...

Let down by the NHS

I was wondering what advice you could give to someone who has asked for help at their GP and hasn’t received any word...

how do i stop overthinking

recently i have been overthinking almost everything and i dont want to and i cant stop myself. i have tried to talk t...

Toxic Friends

Hi Sam, Lately I have been dealing with a lot. I have three close friends which I love and care for so much but I am ...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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I'm 16 and he's 21

Basically the guy I really like has problem with the age gap between us and I think that's the barrier to stoping the...

Long distance ?

Hi Sam, you see I met this guy on an Anime chat site 7 a while ago sometime last year and well hes 16 now and im 14 w...

In love with my teacher

Hiya I'm 15 near 16 and I'm totally in love with my science teacher he is only 22 and he's perfect we flirt in a secr...

I lied and it was illegal

I'm 14 (although i'm 15 next week) and I met a lad a concert about two months ago who is 19 (it was his birthday when...

Hdb

Hi im not sure what to i've started talking to older boys&men it makes me feel better because of rverythig else a...

Sam, I'm a liar

I've been talking to this guy whose 17. When we first started talking I told him i was 14 (I'm actually 13). I told h...

seeing a married man

hi sam, im 17 and i really do like this guy i am seeing, hes 40, has children and is married. I feel bad and guilty a...

Teacher and me

I'm writing to tell you that I am in need of help as I am in love with my teacher whom I think likes me as well, we a...

Love my Teacher of 24

Hi Sam, I know you must get a lot of letters on this topic but I really am feeling at a loss of what to do. I'm 16, n...

dont hate....

well this is a long story but i need to tell someone,, well i have left school nearly 2years now. i got myself in to ...

Is 4 years too big?

I met a boy on holiday (he's 17 I'm 13) and we got pretty close, although nothing sexual haappened. We still talk a l...

i like my teacher

i m 12 yrs old and i've a kind of crush on my teacher. he is my music teacher and because ia m a choir student so we ...

Boy Troubles

i like this boy but he keeps asking me to do things with him but im only 12 nearly 13 and hes 14, but if i mess it up...

30years

so im 17 and hes 47, he loves me and i love him. but i know its wrong and i want to leave my family for him but i can...

Strangers

Hi I'm G and i'm 14I'm supposed to be meeting a 16/17 year old tomorrow to go to the cinema, i know he is 16/17 becau...

I crave a baby...

Hey Sam, I'm only 16 years old but I crave a baby.. I have got a boyfriend but we've never had sex. I don't want to...

my secret

i really like this boy and we are great friends but the problem is i dont really know what to do about it . no one kn...

Ahh I really like a boy,

Hi Sam, Me and my friend really like this boy. But the thing is we both think he's going out with our worst enemy. I...

crushing on my teacher

hi sam, im 13 i just wanted to tell you that i have a crush on my teacher and i know thats wrong, but i cant seem to...

in love with a girl

hi sam well, i'm a girl and i'm i love with a girl, i was really scared and still am but not as much but anyway a co...

Love?

Hi Im 11 And My Names S,Everyone Has Crushes At School Its Just I Dont Find Boys Interesting One BIT! I Mean Is It Ri...

he has a girlfriend

i am in love with a band member from black veil brides, a famous rock band, but he has a girlfriend and it kills me t...